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<h1>Rules for asking women out</h1>
<p>Many men seem to struggle with understanding in what situations it's acceptable to ask a woman out, or simply strike a conversation in hopes of getting along well, and in which situations it's creepy. Don't worry! This guide, based primarily on advice from feminists and other experts in this field, will help you out.</p>
<p>So let's get to the point. You should <b>never</b> talk to a woman you don't know if you're:</p>
<ul><li>outdoors. All women have enough of being harassed by strangers.</li><li>on public transport. She just want to get somewhere, not talk with a man.</li><li>in a store. She just want to shop, not talk with a man.</li><li>in school. She just want to study, not talk with a man.</li><li>at work. She just want to work, not talk with a man.</li><li>at a gym. She just want to work out, not talk with a man.</li><li>at a hobby club. She just want to enjoy the hobby, not talk with a man.</li><li>in a therater. She just want to watch, not talk with a man.</li><li>in a bar/club. You're going to make her uncomfortable because harassment is very common in these places.</li><li>in a male-dominated space. The power dynamics are going to make her uncomfortable.</li><li>in a female-dominated space. It will look like you just went there to get sex.</li><li>on the internet. She's probably getting spammed with thousands of dick pics.</li></ul>
<p>When you want things to get serious and ask a woman out, you should <b>not</b> do it if any of the following applies:</p>
<ul><li>You're not friends with her. A relationship is not going to work if there's no friendship in the first place.</li><li>You're friends with her. It will look like you just faked the friendship to get sex.</li><li>She didn't explicitly consent to being asked out. (Also, when asking her whether she consents to being asked out, make sure she consents to being asked for consent. And remember that she can revoke the consent at any time without informing you.)</li></ul>
<p>Hopefully this helps!</p>
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